I remember that therapy session where it was pointed out to me that I wasn’t breathing. Not often at all. Bare minimum.
The emotional and physical situation in me was so intense that I had chosen many years previously to keep breathing to a minimum. Because the awesome thing about breathing less is that it can assist us in feeling less.
My own journey of learning to breathe has been one of many chapters and these days it’s got to pretty rocking, exciting levels as I deepen into my sexual and spiritual healing.
So how’s your breathing going?
Here are the signs that you aren’t breathing as nature intended:
- Your breath is shallow and mainly up at the throat or upper chest
- You find yourself sighing a lot or taking a sudden deep breath
- You can’t quite ‘catch’ your breath or take a deep enough breath
- You feel stress or high anxiety regularly
Firstly, remember that it makes perfect sense. It’s something that you probably learnt unconsciously a long time ago and that has served you emotionally as you grew up. It’s probably time to shift it now though as it will be hampering your ability to be fully present and balanced in your life.
If you look at a baby, you’ll see that they breathe right into their belly. So, from the mouths of babes here are some tips to get your breath going:
- Put your hands on your belly and breathe into them
- Breath in for a count and hold and out for a count
- Rock your pelvis slightly while you breathe into your belly
- Breath like a wave
- Be aware of where the breath enters and leaves you
- Breathe in relaxation, breathe out stress
Often as we allow our breath to flow, emotions can arise that we were constricting our breath unconsciously to not feel. As we explore the breath, we can become aware of anxiety, constriction or fear etc.
Here’s what to do:
- Allow it to be there – don’t panic, overthink or judge. Just let it be there and witness it as it changes.
- Put a hand at the place where you feel the sensation and continue to breathe steadily.
- Allow your body to move, shake, do what it needs to do as you focus on that emotion.
- Break the emotion or thought down to the level of physical sensation – where is it? Describe the sensation.
When breathing gives you wings:
When you’ve worked a lot with the breath, say with a breathing practice every day, it can keep growing with you.
Breath is used worldwide in spiritual, sexual, physical practices to take us to more expanded, sensuous or grounded places.
Erotic breath, yoga energy breath, breathwork and shamanic breathwork… it begins as the simplest form of being alive and it grows to be a gateway for powerful spiritual discovery.